9 Reasons Why People Cheat In Relationships

Rajan Singh
4 min readOct 21, 2020
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Cheating in a relationship is a very painful experience. It can leave the person cheated full of frustration, disbelief, self-doubt, and sadness. If you have ever been cheated you know how much it hurts. For some people cheating is a habit, they know what they are doing and they do it without having any regrets, for others it may be an act of impulse done without thinking about the consequences it will bring.

The first category of people are untrustworthy and you should avoid having any kind of relationship with them. To understand the other ones, we have to first understand the reasons why people cheat.

Sexual Fulfillment

Sex is one of the most prominent reasons why infidelity exists in relationships. It is a well-known fact that there are relationships where the people involved don’t have the same sexual needs. One might have more sexual desires than the other. Sometimes people control their urge for the sake of their partner or the relationship they share with them but failing to do so causes them to cheat on their partner.

Emotional Connect

When people enter into a relationship there is a kind of excitement and passion, things look beautiful, but over time the magic fades. Of course, they still love their partner, but the need for self-gratification and satisfaction leads them to cheat in relationships.

Low Esteem and Validation

Some people despite being good at many things crave the validation of others. These people have low self-esteem and they always need someone to authenticate for their actions. Sometimes receiving validation or extra attention from a new person of the opposite gender attracts them pushes them to infidelity.

Anger and Frustration

Human reactions to certain situations can be different. Relationships can be joyous and delightful but at the same time, anger and frustration on your partner can reach to such an extent that it can lead a person to infidelity. There can be a lot of reasons for anger like your partner’s unavailability for you or lack of physical and emotional connection or frustration over an argument.

Commitment Issues

Due to the fast-moving world, everyone seems so busy and focused on their work and career that they don’t want commitment in relationships. They do love their partners and take care of them but at the same time, they don’t want any kind of commitments. They think of it as a burden that would derange them from their goals and ambitions. To further validate their opinion they sometimes indulge in infidelity to run from commitments.

Situational Reasons

A person might be in a very happy relationship and doesn’t necessarily want to cheat his/her partner, but sometimes the situation or the environment leads them to cheat on their partner. The modern environment and technology have made communication with new people easy and comfortable. Sometimes we met people who we admire and get attracted too. Getting attention from them can be more tempting and can lead a person to infidelity as well.

Craving For Variety

It is normal for a person to have sexual fantasies other than their partners. But sometimes people react to those fantasies and that is where things get worse. Many people crave for variety in their sexual partners, Some of them just do what they want and don’t get into serious relationships while others being in a relationship try to get control of their feelings. Failing to do so they indulge in activities that lead them to cheat their partners.

New Person

One of the most common reasons for infidelity is when a person gets attracted to a new person and leaves their partners behind for them. This is the most common scenario in most relationships nowadays. The person cheating is aware of what he/she is doing and they don’t have any doubts about that. If you are in a relationship with a person and something like this happens, you should move forward immediately. You have to understand that he/she chose to act that way and moved forward and you should also do the same.

Reconnecting To An Ex

Old relationships are unforgettable. Connecting to an ex again can be exciting and sometimes doing this can harm your current relationships too. People you have been before know you better and when reconnected you feel a sense of attachment with them. Reconnecting with an ex can ignite the old feelings which can bring infidelity in your current relationship.

There can be a lot of reasons to cheat in a relationship but to keep it intact and evergreen all it needs is honesty and love. Talk to your partner whenever you feel like talking or listen to them when they need you. Every relation has its hardships and tough times but it all can be dissolved with love and care.

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Rajan Singh
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